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How Realistic Are Your Expectations For Love?

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Love can be a little tricky for most of us. You've probably heard the expression:

"If you don't love yourself, no one else will."

But what does that even look like in regards to what can we reasonably expect from our partner?

If we feel entitled to too little, we're told we'll get walked all over. If we feel entitled to too much, we can inadvertently ensure that we will keep failing at love.

Take this test to see just how reasonable your expectations are.

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Question 1 of 16

1) Having high expectations of my partner is good and shows I value myself. 

A

True

B

False

Question 2 of 16

2) Because my partner has lied to me, the chance of our relationship working is not high.

A

True

B

False

Question 3 of 16

3) If this relationship is expecting too much change from me, we are likely not a good match.

A

True

B

False

Question 4 of 16

4) I should not have to ask. If my partner really loved me, they would know what I want and they would be able to anticipate what I need. 

A

True

B

False

Question 5 of 16

5) A good relationship is one in which each other’s independent hopes, dreams and goals are fully supported.

A

True

B

False

Question 6 of 16

6) Because my partner has been unfaithful to me, the chances of our relationship working are not high.

A

True

B

False

Question 7 of 16

7) If my partner loses physiological responsiveness (e.g., ability to 'perform') or loses interest in sex, it means there is definitely something wrong with the relationship.

A

True

B

False

Question 8 of 16

8) It is important that throughout the relationship, my partner maintains the positive representations of themselves that they made at the start; such as staying physically fit, enjoying a similar level of sex, or continuing to be a good provider. After all, that is what caused me to fall in love with them in the first place.

A

True

B

False

Question 9 of 16

9) Having independent lives, with my own interests and friends, is crucial to keeping a relationship exciting.

A

True

B

False

Question 10 of 16

10) In order to have a smooth relationship, my partner and I need to agree on things like politics, religion, and parenting.

A

True

B

False

Question 11 of 16

11) Controlling how I feel is the key to happiness in a relationship.

A

True

B

False

Question 12 of 16

12) My partner needs to accept me exactly as I am.

A

True

B

False

Question 13 of 16

13) A phenomenal relationship can make me feel complete.

A

True

B

False

Question 14 of 16

14) If my partner does not value the things I do to a similar extent, such as spending time with our kids or being concerned about our financial security, it makes sense to question our compatibility and doubt our future.

A

True

B

False

Question 15 of 16

15) My partner has always been the one to apologise first and fix things, likely because they make the most mistakes. Them refusing to do that anymore is undermining the relationship.

A

True

B

False

Question 16 of 16

16) It is unhealthy for partners to always take each other’s side.

A

True

B

False

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